rediscover who you are

Its time to rediscover who you are!

Parenting special needs can take a toll. Rediscover who you are!

Parenting tends to put our lives on hold. More so if you care for an individual with special needs. Caring for a special needs child can take a  hard toll in our life. Today, I want to encourage you to rediscover who you are!  You’re a person, too!

Parenting can put our lives on hold. More so if you are parenting a special needs child. However, you are a person with passions, pursuits and interests.  It’s time to rediscover who you are!

 If you have enveloped yourself so deeply as a caregiver that you have lost sight of who you are as an individual, I am here to remind you about who you are.  You are important, smart and a unique individual. If you’ve lost sight of your individuality.

I want to help you rediscover who you are as you find ways to care and nurture yourself.  You can find (or make time) to- 

  • Rest
  • Re-energize
  • Grow

Let go of the guilt and allow yourself to discover your own identity so that you can be your very best not only for those you love, but for yourself as well.

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Until next time, Enjoy the Journey

 

Enjoy life. Stay in the moment. Get connected. Love the ones you have.

Happiness research shows that people who live in the present moment are happier.

So many of my best childhood memories come from my grandma. She really had a handle on enjoying life and staying in the moment.

Now that I am grown, I wish my grandma was still around.  I would love to ask her how she managed to do it all and still take the time to truly slow down and enjoy life.  All I have left are my observations and, thankfully, some of her genes.

 

 

In this podcast episode, I will explore the many ways you can stay connected and in the moment in order to truly enjoy your life.  I will discuss-

Acceptance

Gratitude

Commitment

Self expression

Taking a step back

 

As well as some actionable strategies to make the most of the time you have by Simplifying,  Delegating, Automating and Slowing down.

Your life is your story.  Write it well, and edit it often.

 

Join me next week for the final episode of the season, where we will explore ways that you can take care of YOURSELF.

 

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Learn & Grow

Parenting a special needs child can be overwhelming at times.  There is so much to learn and so much to do!  It’s hard to wrap your mind around what is most important where to begin (or continue) learning.  In this episode I want to share some useful tips on how to organize and prioritize what you need to learn when it comes to special needs parenting. We will take a deep dive and explore the following categories:

 

  • Your child’s diagnosis
  • The IEP process
  • The Medical process
  • Taking advantage of your social networks
  • Understanding your learning style
  • Finding a purpose in helping others
 
What you do today becomes a part of who you are.  I’m here to encourage you to strive for progress, but beware of perfectionism!  
 
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You can do hard things

You can!

One of the biggest influencers in your potential is your mindset.    You have to make up your mind and deicide that you can do hard things.  You can!

I want to encourage you by sharing some of my personal victories and triumphs.  You can decide that you can do hard things today! 

 

Now is not the time to shy away from a problem. It is time for you to rise up and become more.  And you can.

You can learn

Every accomplishment starts with a decision to try

 

You can connect

Making meaningful connections with people walking your same journey or people who can help move you further can make a permanent impact in your outcome.

You can be resilient

The ones who are crazy enough to believe they can change the world are the ones that do

 

You can change

Behavior manifests in actions. Actions become habits. Habits form people. People change outcomes

See yourself as who you want to be, not who you think you are not.

You can do hard things

 

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Believe your child can.

Parenting a child with special needs can be discouraging t times. Today, I want to inspire you to keep believing. Decide to be resilient.  Don’t let setbacks knock you down. You have to activate your hope and faith for your child!

I’m here to talk to you about ways that you can materialize your hopes and expectations with actionable strategies. In this podcast we will discuss some of the following topics

  • Setting up age appropriate expectations
  • Stretching language
  • Minding what you say
  • Establishing  nurturing relationships
  • Getting social (it takes a village!)

 As a parent, it is your job to hope and believe for your child. Nobody has the vision that you do. Keep pushing forward!

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In this episode we will discuss how to face fear and overcome

  1. Fear manifests in three ways

    Fight, flight or freeze

  2. We can fear many things, including

    -The unknown
    -Loss of control
    -Threat of harm
    -Pending danger

  3. As a special needs parent, you may find yourself facing many of the situations that can trigger fear.

  4. Fear can be helpful. You can make it work for you!

    -establish balance
    -recognize that having courage does not mean having an absence of fear.
    -learn to trust yourself
    -take small, but steady steps forward
    -remind yourself that this moment will not last forever

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Dealing with depression trauma and grief

As special needs parents, we often find ourselves facing difficult emotional situations.  We can often times find ourselves facing traumatic events that leave us handling depression, grief and trauma.  Oftentimes, alone.  Today, I want to talk about dealing with depression trauma and grief.
 

We are in a battle every day.  We question our choices every day.  We are scared to make a mistake or to run out of strength all the time.

Today, I want to talk about my own journey through these difficult paths.  I want to share some of the strategies that help me keep my head afloat and and continuously find a way out depression grief and trauma.

We can do this. Together. 

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My daughter, sustained brain damage as an infant as as a result,  suffers from multiple special needs. Amongst some of her struggles are living with epilepsy, autism, cognitive delays, metabolic disorders, ADHD and sensory processing disorders (SPI).

People are often curious about my daughters condition and the onset of all of her problems. 

In this episode, I’m going to tell you the story of Katy and how it led me to where I am today. 

Have a listen!

 

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“Are there any questions?”

 

Mr. Osborne sat confidently on top of his desk, overlooking his new 5th grade class.  He was sporting a bushy mustache that connected to his sideburns. His bald head reflected the fluorescent lights.

 

I was confused. 

 

Only a few months earlier, I was living in Mexico, my home country.  Now, I found myself enrolled in Mountlake Terrace Elementary, a school located in mid-Washington state.  I spoke very little english, however, I understood the words “are there any questions.”

 

What a weird way to start a school day!  

 

Back in Mexico, we sat in rows facing forward, and listened to long lectures followed by fastidious handwriting practice and rote math drills.  Now I found myself assigned to a small group of (four) students.  We were teamed together in a cluster of desks that did not face the front of the class.  We faced each other, and were encouraged to discuss things together.  Later in the year, we would be instructed to work together to earn points for rewards such as Licorice (what was licorice?)!

 

A student hand shot up in the air.  He had a question.  

 

What was the student saying…?

 

My understanding of the dialogue that followed was limited due to my poor knowledge of the English language.  Nevertheless, I could observe that all the students were engrossed in the class discussion.  Mr. Osborne looked like someone who knew a lot of stuff, and student’s appeared to enjoy listening to his replies. 

 

Day after day, Mr. Osborne began his day with the same routine, “are there any questions?”  More and more students raised their hands with each passing day.  About a week later, I raised my own hand.  The teacher called on me.

 

“A question about what?” I timidly asked.

 

“Anything you want to know,” Mr. Osborne replied  “If I don’t know the answer, I will write it down and find out for you!”

 

Wow.  I could ask him- ANYTHING!

 

As my english grew, so did my understanding of the invigorating morning discussions.  It became a routine that all us 5th graders looked forward to.  We would get so engaged in the discussion that Mr. Osborne had to set a timer to make sure we didn’t miss the start of our lesson.  By the time our teacher was ready to teach, we were all ready to learn!

 

A few months later,I arrived to the classroom and sat with my group.  Mr. Osborne sat on top of his desk and began the day as usual.

 

“Are there any questions,” he asked.

 

As I gathered the courage to ask the question that had been weighing on my heart since the day I first met him, I raised a shaky hand.

 

“Yes, Michelle?”

 

“Mr. Osborne…why is your head so shiny?”

 

Mr. Osborne didn’t laugh at the question, nor was he insulted.  Rather, he gave my question validity as he described hair follicles and oils to explain the secret to his resplandescent head.

 

I couldn’t wait for tomorrow.  I had so many more questions!




 

Season one of The journey is underway!

From special needs to extraordinary outcomes!

This season will be a very intimate view of the personal stories and experiences that have led me to the conclusions that I am making today. I want to share stories, strategies, inspiration and hope to special needs parents and caregivers. Together, we will discover that when life’s demands do not allow us to be “normal” it becomes our platform to transform into something extraordinary! Come see what all the hype is about.

Coming in August 2020.

Here is a list of the episodes that are currently in production

  • About us- How it all begun
  • Depression- how to overcome it.
  • Fear- how to face it and make it work for you
  • Choosing to hope and believe.
  • “I can”- how your mentality can change your child’s future.
  • Learning- deciding to do what it takes.
  • Enjoying life- learning to live in the moment and appreciate all the things.
  • You’re a person, too- Take care of your needs.

 

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